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The
Hopeline
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WHAT IS THE HOPELINE?
The Hopeline is a self-help guide for
people with eating disorders and their families. It is written from the
perspective of someone who has recovered from anorexia nervosa, bulimic subtype.
It is often the reading of someone else's experiences and struggles with an
eating disorder that make it possible to confront one's own struggles without
feeling defensive. It also seems that knowing that one is not alone or the only
person in the world who engages in certain behaviors makes it possible to
confront those behaviors and change them.
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WHAT IS THE STORY OF THE
HOPELINE?
The Hopeline was really loved and
people told their friends about it. Over time, over 1000 people all over the country
were subscribing. This was in the days before e-mail and each
Hopeline was
mailed out individually. Dr. Kim stopped writing The Hopeline in order to make it
into a book, but has not done that yet (hopefully this year!). She chose to
complete her doctorate, develop her private practice as a psychologist, get
married, write a different book with her husband, Dan, and have children
instead. During this time,
the Hopeline book was put
aside. It is time for The Hopeline
to be available to people again.
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HOW CAN THE HOPELINE
HELP WITH RECOVERY?
Recovery from
an eating disorder is one of the most difficult challenges any human being can
face. It takes a tremendous amount of determination over a long, long
time. For most people, recovery takes between two to five years from the time
that the individual with the eating disorder decides that she/he wants to
recover. Recognizing that there is considerable variation in the needs of
each person in recovery, a broad spectrum of ideas are presented. The
intent is for the reader to pick and choose those things that are helpful to her
or him.
Recovery
requires the resolution of emotional issues as well as the changing of many food
and weight related thoughts and behaviors. The former may be extremely
painful, but is, in some ways, easier than the formidable task of changing the
thoughts and behaviors. The
Hopeline addresses both aspects of
recovery.
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HOW DO I READ THE
HOPELINE?
Five sample issues of The Hopeline
are included on the website. They are numbered 1 - 5 and their links are
at the top of this page. A special poem about recovery called TRIUMPH is
included as well. It's link is also at the top of his page. These are revisions
of the first five issues that were written when the newsletter was first
published. The initial issues addressed issues relevant to the support
group to whom it was written.
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As time went
by, the issues addressed became broader to include the following topics as well
as others:
do I want to stop the behaviors?
communication levels
taking responsibility for eating disorder
behaviors
family response to changes
self-control
loving myself
relationships
hope and fear
forgiveness
the flower of self-worth
giving and receiving
relapse
sharing of feelings
anesthetized feelings
forgiveness through self-disclosure
admission of imperfection
the message of self-love
how to begin to love yourself
coping with loss
acknowledging the self-destructiveness of the
behaviors
deciding to be "normal"
distorted perception of reality
not taking things so personally
family influence in recovery
advice for spouses
resolutions and recovery
physiological ramifications
consequences
normal eating
myths
alcoholism and eating disorders
the function of eating disorder behaviors in
relationships
conflict avoidance
assertiveness
resolution of conflict
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